We get it - sometimes marriage becomes dull. What was once a passionate communion of two lovers is now just separate people coexisting in the same space. Conversations become boring and the bedroom is dead. You’re not the first or the last person to consider having an affair to add some much-needed excitement to your life… but you’re not the first or last person to get caught doing so either. Affairs, while a lot of fun and rewarding, are notoriously tricky to pull off. They might be the key to saving your marriage, but if handled sloppily, they might also cause your marriage to die a fiery death. But it can be done. Below we’re going to take a look at several tips and tricks to have an affair without getting caught.

Use discreet dating apps to find hookups

Never try and pick someone up in a public place like a bar, club, or restaurant. The chances are that someone you know will see you in action and there’s likely to be footage of the incident on any number of CCTVs in the aforementioned establishments. Besides, the chances of picking someone up this way are low. Instead, use a discreet dating app to find your hookup. Ashley Madison is the first choice in this regard. It’s designed to connect married and single users who are looking for fun and excitement while simultaneously keeping everything under wraps. It’s easy to use and has a massive userbase, so you can almost guarantee that you’ll find what you’re looking for. If Ashley Madison doesn’t work for you, check out Seeking or AdultFriendFinder, both of which are great for finding hookups.

Always use cash

If things go well and you start seeing your fling more often, you’ll likely start spending money every time you meet up. To cover your tracks and not leave a paper trail wherever you go, it’s important that you use cash for any financial transactions. Whether it’s a cup of coffee, lunch for two, or something more extravagant like a piece of jewelry, make sure that you pay for everything in cash. All it takes is one suspicious credit card payment to show up on the statement at the end of the month and your entire game is ruined.

Keep contact to a minimum when you’re not meeting up

Affairs are exciting, and it can be tempting to want to text and call with your fling when you’re away from each other. You should avoid doing this at all costs. You may not think that your partner is noticing the excessive amount of time you’re spending on your phone or computer, but they do. Invariably they’re going to ask what you’re looking at, and when you refuse to show them they are going to get suspicious. This is by far the number one way that people give themselves away. Keep contact to an absolute minimum and only get in touch when you need to organize a meeting.

Check your bin twice

This applies to both the physical and digital world. Check your dustbin for anything incriminating that you may have discarded. If you thought you deleted those nudes that your fling sent you or fully erased the history of your chat, think again. There are virtual backups everywhere. Even after physically deleting any pictures, videos, or chat conversations, find the backups on your phone, computer, or in the cloud, and delete them as well. Fully eradicating any digital traces is the only way to keep your affair discreet.